Like most controversial series, this hit Netflix show took social media by storm as it delves into the realms of commitment, negotiation, communication, and love, between two people in a relationship. Well, at least that is what the process entails.
Six couples join an intensive program to determine whether they’re ready to take the next steps of commitment with their current partners.
As season one comes to an end the slogan goes ‘either marry or I move on’…
A new era has taken over, the idea of purposely entering a show that involves your partner to live with someone else and basically acceptably ‘cheat’ as the oxymoron shows is beyond me. What has happened to the concept of traditionally assessing whether your partner is the one, for example – asking the difficult questions around parenting, weaknesses, strengths, finances, and boundaries that each person does not want crossed.
If every couple was allowed to date and live with someone else for 3 weeks, I’m sure each person would have fun, find interest, and establish a sexual connection – we’re humans with wondering minds. So, does this determine that your original partner is not for you?
Every new couple starts out relaxed, intriguing, and exciting which is conveyed when each couple experience another partner for 3 weeks, but to then compare that to someone who you have been with for 2 years+, experienced many arguments, memories, family connections, and love with, my question would be is the comparison fair?
Now what tips the balance of each couple is when they go back to their partners after those ‘blissful’ 3 weeks with a stranger and determine which 3 weeks they value most. The MESSINESS basically starts here, the tragic questioning commences as each partner asks their significant other: what did you guys talk about, what did you guys do, did you like him/her better. I mean talk about planting a doubting seed.
Now let’s take it back to the whole reason they are here, essentially an ultimatum is given. Is it necessary to give your partner an ultimatum on their commitment, or should this be a decision that comes naturally? And if it doesn’t, through conversation can you not critically assess the issue with your partner openly and most importantly, privately!
Sometimes a conversation does not need to be had, maybe the answer is right there in front of you… & you are stalling?
As entertaining the show is, the reasoning behind it still baffles me mainly because, if commitment and plans on next steps in a relationship do not align with your partners, then discussions need to be had not an experiment that confuses the situation further.
Each couple was destined to fail, each couple had troubles from the start and nothing substantial could have been learnt.
If I had to ask either marry or I’ll move on and a ring is not presented, well then, I hate to admit it, but the intention was never there, and that is all the answer I need.
To live with someone else to test your love and loyalty, is a strong no from me.
- HV
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