When people think about ‘letting go’ the negative connotations surrounding the phrase are very close by. Why?
Letting go is a difficult skill but a positive one to, it may not be for both parties, but it definitely is for at least one and that should be celebrated; so why in our generation do we not focus on the highlights of letting go. For example, the promotion of growth, the ability to see clearly, the journey of self-love and care. Letting go is not a bitter move but a better one.
When I was in high school, I had loads of friends like I am talking classrooms filled with them. I left school and all of sudden I could count them with one hand, now most of these people I didn’t let go of intentionally but I guess you could say life happened and we all went on with our dreams and aspirations. Nevertheless, there are no ill intentions but I think its fair to say that change is a part of life. When one door closes another opens as cliche as that sounds it is true. But what I have noticed is that as we get older we hold on to the people we want in our lives by any means necessary, but that isn’t always healthy or mutual and this unbalance tends to lead you down a path filled with an array of mixed emotions that prohibits you to grow.
As humans we see the negatives in almost anything that might be a positive for someone else, it is hard to accept that you may not be good for someone and vice versa. What is good for you may not always be what you want or how you envision your life, and sometimes just sometimes our parents are right to say that the end result is a blessing in disguise.
Story time: In 2011, I instantly created a strong friendship with a person, lovely personality, very bubbly and social. We got on like a house on fire. Created a trust and bond that was solid. An incident occurred where she no longer had my best interests at heart simply because her life moved on and her best interests were to prioritise another relationship with a person that had a vendetta against me. I had to let go of that friendship because I could not pass the incident and there is nothing wrong with that. By dealing with the problem directly and letting go earlier, I grew, I got over my anger and now I can pass the same girl and share a laugh and a hello and feel no animosity to how she contributed to a wrongful action against me.
People make mistakes, including yourself, you will hurt people and you will make people happy. However, I believe there is always a line that you cannot come back from in terms of forgetting but I also believe that forgiveness is an act you should always practice.
People mistaken the two to be the same. When you forgive you are letting go, but to let go does not mean you forget it just means you are no longer bothered, you are at peace and you have created steps to make sure that same hurt does not happen again.
Letting go is powerful, its positive and it is a necessary. Practice, preach it, live it.
Yours truly,
Hidden voices – HV
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